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Post by laohuaqiao on May 1, 2012 16:47:26 GMT -5
guoliang/Steven, Two character surnames are not very common. There are over 80 2-character Chinese surnames. In terms of demographics Situ surname ranks in the 400s in popularity among all surnames, 31st among 2-character surnames.
Situ in ancient China was the highest government position, equivalent to a prime minister. When the emperor appointed someone to the situ position, the official's children and future generations could adopt the position title as surname.
Douglaslam mentioned an incident in Tang Dynasty where the emperor suspected a general name Xue/Sit 薛 of betrayal, a serious crime, and ordered the death of the general and his 9 related families, common practice in those days, which included all members of his father's family, his aunt's family, his sister's family, his daughter's family, his maternal grandparents' families and his in-laws families. Many of the Sit/Xue family went into hiding and changed the surname to Situ. To this day, some Situ clans pay their respects to the Sit/Xue ancestors.
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Post by FayChee on May 1, 2012 20:57:04 GMT -5
Hi Doug and Laohuaqiao, Yes, I just want to tell other Chinese in America who and where my dad was from, and when I go to China, I will carry both languages with me. I think my new 'mantra' is.... "when I go to China"...
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Post by tyuti1668 on May 1, 2012 23:20:50 GMT -5
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Post by FayChee on Jun 3, 2012 7:46:54 GMT -5
Surprise I'm back!
Hello Everyone, it's been a long time since I posted here, but I have been checking back every now and then to see what is new.
Up until last week, I had heard nothing from my long lost relatives. Then when I thought I would forget about trying to reach them and remove the online information, I received a voicemail from my nephew, asking to make contact. What a great surprise! I immediately called him back, and although I could not completely understand his Chinese-English, I could hear the happiness and sincerity in his voice, that he was truly happy to make contact with me. So far we have exchanged several emails and recent photos. We both hope to meet one day. I never would have found my Chinese relatives without you. I will continue to monitor this forum and keep you updated of my progress and hopefully one day, a trip to my dad's Ancestral home. Linda Seto
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Post by douglaslam on Jun 4, 2012 5:22:04 GMT -5
Hi Linda,
It is good to see you signing off as Linda Seto. And I am also glad you are making contacts with long lost relatives. There are people who care and want to reconnect with you.
I am going away again in November, probably to Taiwan, then mainland China. If other members of this board can give me your dad's village name and nearest township in Chinese, I am going to see it for myself, and take photos to show you. Of course, your new found relatives could probably do better in filling in the details and perhaps with photos. If I could be of help to assuage that urge to know, I'd be happy to do a side trip to Sze Yup with my companions in China.
This is my promise to you which I hope I could keep.
Douglas
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Post by FayChee on Jun 4, 2012 9:09:06 GMT -5
What a wonderful gift that would be for me, to see my dad's ancestral village through your eyes and words Douglas! I don't believe that my nephew has been back to China to visit his granddad's village. I mentioned that I would like to go see dad's Ancestral home and she said that they heard it was empty of contents and in dis-repair.
I have often thought about legally changing my name to reflect my real fathers' surname, but unfortunately all of my professional degrees and important papers cannot be changed.
Fay Chee
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Post by douglaslam on Jun 5, 2012 3:23:35 GMT -5
Linda, You have given me plenty of information to work on. By going back a page or two, I gleaned even more information. Though what is shown is a mish-mash transliteration in Cantonese and Mandarin, it does make sense to me. When the time comes, I'll ask more capable members of the Forum for help.
I have a friend also named Szeto, who returned to live and work in Hong Kong and China, he might even be from your dad's village. I'll call him if further help is needed.
Fingers crossed
Douglas
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Post by FayChee on Jun 5, 2012 12:32:15 GMT -5
Thanks Douglas. I can not tell the difference between Cantonese and Mandarin, I just wrote everything down that I could. It would be great if your friend was from my dad's village and could give me more information. Linda
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Post by FayChee on Jul 4, 2012 21:43:14 GMT -5
Hello Chinese Genealogy Family! I'm back!!!! Great news..........my nephew sent me photos of my granddad (Yau Tak Seto, born about 1870), my dad's two Chinese wives, my half sister and brother and lots others! I am sooooo happy and at peace in my heart....and it is all thanks to you, the members of this website. Now to my question....what would be the most wonderful gift that I could send my nephew and his wife? I remember reading here about the 'Red Envelope'....would that be a nice thing to do? Fay Chee Attachments:
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Post by douglaslam on Jul 5, 2012 2:36:38 GMT -5
Linda, It is great news, and the photo is a real blast from the past. I am so happy for you for linking up with your extended family. Perseverance certainly pays off.
A red packet is very appropriate for the occasion because you are a senior or elder in family ranking. A red packet containing money transcends all age and ranking barriers. It is a gesture of good wishes and luck. $20 or $30 would be about right, but not 40 or 50. I stand to be corrected. Can you wait until you are meeting them in person?
You are entitled to be addressed by your formal title of an aunt, " gu jeur" when meeting your nephew in person. His wife and children should address you as "gu por" aunt grandmother. Don't forget his wife and the children, they too, should get a red packet each.
I am not familiar with sprinkling soil from the ancestral land on the grave. Never heard of it done before. Just how are you going to obtain the soil and then pass the U.S. quarantines?
Douglas
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Post by laohuaqiao on Jul 5, 2012 11:19:02 GMT -5
That's a great photo, Linda. Your grandfather was a very distinguished looking gentle. You should find out about his history. Wai Gwin looked a lot like your father.
It's nice that the photo was taken in the setting of the village, rather than in a studio. Then having the naturally curious neighbors lurking in the background makes it very cute.
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Post by Doug 周 on Jul 5, 2012 13:12:41 GMT -5
Linda, I am also happy you were able to discover your Chinese genealogy. To help you know what kinship term to call your distant relative, consider this conversion guide: Chinese Family Titlesclick Placing dirt onto your fathers gravesite is touching and I do not know of any customs prohibiting that (except maybe the US Customs Service) but that should be easy to circumvent . However, Chinese Customs are not my forte
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Post by FayChee on Jul 5, 2012 13:15:49 GMT -5
Hi Douglas and Laohuaqiao, This photo isn't in good focus, but it is the only other one that shows the Ancestral home that my granddad built. I was told that my dad shaved my head because it was a Chinese custom, but I read it was a custom to shave the 'boys' head. Since my nephew lives pretty far from me, I don't know when we will get a chance to meet each other. But I will save the 'Red Envelope' gift for when we do. I have never seen this mysterious 'Red Envelope', but I guess if I go to Chinatown in New York, I will ask in a store. Fay Chee Attachments:
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Post by laohuaqiao on Jul 5, 2012 14:32:30 GMT -5
Linda, I think the "test" your grandfather failed was an immigration interview. Whatever status he was applying for to gain entry to the US, he did not satisfy the immigration officers. At some point you may want to look into Canadian archives for records of your grandfather.
The name Fay in Chinese name your father gave you, Fay Chee, is probably the same character Wai in you half sister's name Wai Gwin. The character pronounced as Wai in Cantonese is Fay in Taishan/Kaiping dialect.
I agree that bringing in dirt is going to be problem with the customs. There is a possibility that worms, insect larvae, microbes etc. not native to the US are contained in dirt and once brought into the US they could cause havoc to the local ecological system. Maybe there are ways to sterilize the dirt to the custom's satisfaction.
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Post by FayChee on Jul 5, 2012 23:27:14 GMT -5
Laohuaqiao, I did a search on Ancestry and there was a Yau Fong Seto with a similar birth date (1874) who was on the 1928 Canadian Passenger list and who said he had previously been in Canada in 1912. I know that sometimes people used nicknames or just changed names for no reason (that I know of), so maybe this is him? If it is, then we now know his wife's name (maybe). I guess I'll just forget about bringing soil back. If I can find his father's gravesite, I'll take a few pebbles or maybe a few pieces of stone from around his house to place on dad's headstone. .....I think I'm obscessing on this idea. Linda Attachments:
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