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Post by Cheeying on Jun 24, 2015 15:17:56 GMT -5
A few years ago, my father passed away and a new headstone was created with his birthplace on it. My mother just passed and we had planned on adding her information, including her birthplace on it as well. The funeral home said the tradition is that with marriage, the wife takes the birthplace of the husband and that we don't put her birthplace on the headstone. Being American born, I feel like my Mom's birthplace should be noted as well. Is it considered bad form or disrespectful to my father to add hers to the headstone?
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Post by Henry on Jun 24, 2015 16:18:22 GMT -5
Cheeying,
I agree that your mom's birthplace should be added.
Henry
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Post by twoupman on Jun 24, 2015 16:23:04 GMT -5
The funeral home is misinformed. It is proper practice to show the wife's bio including her birth surname, village name plus her birth and death dates. twoupman houseofchinn.com |
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Post by Cheeying on Jun 25, 2015 6:17:36 GMT -5
Thanks so much to Henry and Twoupman for so quickly answering my questions and alleviating my concerns. My brother and I feel so much better about proceeding with what we originally planned.
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Post by xwong on Nov 30, 2015 23:58:53 GMT -5
the practice of a wife taking the man's birthplace is old hat! times have changed and women now are recognized for themselves. if you look at old lineage forms, you will find that the woman's side is always missing. you can tell the funeral home that it's a new world and get with it. the other answer is: you can change anything anytime it doesn't please you. Chinese do it all the time - otherwise you wouldn't have so many customs you never heard of!
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